When It’s Time to Call It Quits

This is not what you think it is. Nor would I ever, unless needed, post that kind of thing into my digital space. I think there comes a time and place in all our lives when we hit the brick wall reeling in awe and wonder because we can’t believe the junk hit the fan. Life is kind of like that right now. Things are happening whether I want them to or not. Change comes abruptly throwing me off kilter. What small plans I had are in danger of falling apart. I am so not even joking. This much I know is true right now: it’s time to call it quits.

What am I calling quits on? Oh, lots of things friends, lots of deep, heavy, and scary things. Some I’ll share here, while others will be left for the quiet space and refuge of family and dear friends. Just because I am in this digital space doesn’t mean I bear all my heart and soul. That would be completely foolish and unwise. The heart is a thing to be guarded, nurtured, and cared for. This calling it quits list is all about mind, body, soul, and personal care (which includes secret things I won’t divulge here cause it’s none-a-ya-business). Perhaps you too have been feeling the urgent call to pare things down, prune back life, do less, or even create margin. Well, friends, what are we waiting for. Let’s do what we need to do now and not later.

For the longest time I have lived a bit disconnected from mind and body not really giving it much thought. However, I am realizing that we are made to live fully connected lives. How else would we know ourselves fully if we didn’t have physical or intuitive responses guiding us? Or am I the only one pondering that? Either way, it seems more important these days to pay attention to the whispers in our hearts and in our bodies. I am learning to listen better to my body and my heart as one integrated whole. Life can longer be lived compartmentalized. Wholeness is what I’d much rather have, so here’s what I’m quitting to get to integrated wholeness.

I’m calling it quits on …

  • Expecting to live up to other people’s expectations
  • Living without risk
  • Envy
  • Not taking chances
  • Making mountains out of mole hills
  • Accepting/Tolerating despicable, bullying, abusive, manipulative behavior
  • Feeling stuck
  • Not working out the solutions
  • Waiting for it all to just happen miraculously
  • Not faithing it with works – I was made to do good works, so were you
  • Lofty ideas that don’t do diddly squat
  • Staying on the wacky train
  • Not exploring all my creative depths
  • Doubt
  • Fear
  • Spite
  • Misgivings
  • Listening to people who’s opinions don’t need to matter
  • Gossip
  • Rumors
  • Resistance
  • Procrastination
  • Being a naysayer – yes, I have sometimes done that, God forgive me
  • Staying in what seems safe but really isn’t
  • Not being brave
  • Making alliances that steal my hope, joy, peace, and purpose
  • Lies
  • Other people’s issues – they aren’t mine to own or care for
  • Forcing the square peg
  • Not believing my own ability
  • Not listening to my body
  • Not caring
  • Not listening to my spirit
  • Not listening to the faintest whisper of the Spirit of God
  • Not resting
  • Waiting without working
  • Thinking I have to do things the tried and tested way
  • Thinking there’s only one purpose for me in earning, creating, writing, living, dreaming, and doing
  • Not trusting God


I could go on and on and on and … I think you get the picture, but this is pretty much my list. Many of these things require a change of heart and mind. I’m okay with that. Change can be scary, but in this instance I welcome it gratefully. Many of the items are ways of living and being, and that means transformation. God, I know, will walk me through it. He already is. I do not expect to be who I am today next year. Change is coming. I hear it rustling in my soul

We all have different things we need to quit. It’s time we started listening more intently to what our lives are speaking. Let’s not miss it. Instead, let’s lean in, unearth the light waiting to be born. Things may look dark and bleak right now, but I believe the more we look, the more we will uncover light that exposes everything. We’ll find our hope again. We’ll find strength to stand, and face our fears. When it’s time to call it quits, let’s do it sooner rather than later. We were made for so much more.

What do you need to quit? I’d love to hear about. Share along in the comments. Let’s spur one another on!



4 thoughts on “When It’s Time to Call It Quits”

  • 1
    Adrienne Kerr on May 5, 2016 Reply

    Very nice post Marvia and lovely web site by the way. Its the first time I’ve hoped over from your instagram feed. This rings true to me at the moment. Listen to your heart & soul to make the best decisions. You know yourself best and you know when to quit the crap and focus on the good. That’s what I believe too! Keep up the creative work, don’t quit on that!!!

    • 2
      Marvia on May 18, 2016 Reply

      Adrienne, thank you so much for stopping by and reading. Here’s to heart listening and forging ahead!

  • 3
    Stacey Lozano on May 5, 2016 Reply

    The verse about how God wants our heart not our sacrifices has been ringing in my ears much lately. And if we don’t do it in love it doesn’t matter. My heart has been naggy, complaining, ugly, disrespectful, and I always always have a “legitimate” excuse or reason. I need to change that heart of mine again. It’s like continual surgery!

    • 4
      Marvia on May 18, 2016 Reply

      Right!! What an ouch, but a good one for soul/heart growth.

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