When Connection Matters

connection marvia davidsonIf we were sitting together in your living room, would you hurl your ideals, articles, angry quotes, and feisty opinions at me the way you do on Facebook, Twitter, or other social media outlets and demand I “deal with it” or tell me to unfriend you or unfollow you, or even block you? But if that’s your boundary then, I suppose I have some not so comfy choices to make.  You can do you, and I can do me.  That is the power of our choices.  We can choose what we will allow or disallow. In light of recent events, like the recent SCOTUS decision and varying cultural shifts, it seems we need healthier boundaries now more than ever.  We need to be able to stay connected in love to people even where it seems they are against us.

I am looking for a better way. I want to be a part of the solution. I want to be able to engage people in healthy conversations, even when those conversations are uncomfortable.  However, I feel the conviction (not a holy one) that perhaps what I’m doing isn’t enough, which isn’t true.   Maybe you’ve felt that too.  We work tirelessly to be love, wear love, show love, and still the demands of tolerance or fitting in or being a complete rule-keeper begin to stifle the abundant life we are created for.  I want abundant life.  I want engaging life.  I want to be dauntless in all I seek to do.

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So I’m praying for practical ways to see through the mess of all the shifting to engage people in healthy relationships that bridge gaps rather than create deeper divides. Cause let’s be real here: I don’t come to your house to get beat up, condemned, ostracized, put down, chided, blamed, hurt, singled out, spewed on, put on the spot,  accused, abused, derided, or berated into submission to what I cannot believe or what I don’t agree with, or told how someone else thinks I should “do” something or say something or take up a cause.  You can do you, and I can do me.  That is the power of choice, but maybe we can choose love and connection in ways that make room for you being you and me being me.

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In the context of relationship, we can make a difference. But if one insists on beating down my doors with disregard, then I must reconsider who we are and what we’ve become.  I must find and live love no matter what.  I must also stand upon the truth without wavering even when it means you might ostracize, persecute, or disavow me.  Ouch!  But have you looked around lately?  It’s already happening.  This isn’t something to fear. It’s something to notice.  The world is crying out and maybe reacting from its pain, but we are called to love and live in truth.  We carry hope, and it’s what we can share that can turn things around.

We are ALL called to seek justice, love mercy, walk humbly with God, and be ministers of reconciliation. Yes!  Every single one of us who calls Christ Lord, this has been and will be our calling. It’s who we are called to be in the ordinary, everyday mundane.  I want to love well.  I want to choose connection in truth over an argument in hate.  Love is what will continue to win.

So I’m praying, seeking, asking God for how to live this out in my daily right-now life. Maybe you are too. All I know is that I desire to speak hope, truth, life, restoration, and wholeness wherever I go. If our connection is priority, I will do my part to keep it healthy and growing.


2 thoughts on “When Connection Matters”

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    Gayl on July 3, 2015 Reply

    “So I’m praying, seeking, asking God for how to live this out in my daily right-now life. Maybe you are too. All I know is that I desire to speak hope, truth, life, restoration, and wholeness wherever I go. If our connection is priority, I will do my part to keep it healthy and growing.” Oh, Marvia, me too. I’m so burdened by all the stuff going on but wanting to show love and needing wisdom to know how to engage people, to disagree but still love and be friends. I want to trust God and be at peace even in the midst of all the turmoil. I want to be an instrument of peace.

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      Marvia on July 21, 2015 Reply

      Thank you Gayl. Prayer changes things and it so matters. Leaning in with you to be instruments of peace.

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