Do you remember that old Disney song from Cinderella, “A Dream Is A Wish Your Heart Makes”? It is such an inspiring song, but I’ve been thinking about the lyrics again. Dreaming while sleeping fast. Losing your heartache when you dream. All your wishes somehow coming true.
It all sounds so fantastical until you realize, dreams don’t just up and present themselves as reality. They do not simply walk into your life and say “Ta Da!” Dreams are hard work. They demand our sweat, our purpose, our truth, sometimes our tears, and test our resolve in ways we never think possible. Dreams are not always all they’re cracked up to be, and sometimes they wither and fade from lack of care.
When dreams fade away, there is a choice we get to make. Do I do the work of making the dream happen? Do I lean into the ups and downs of where the dream will take me? Do I give up when the going gets tough? Do I bother with the complexities and simplicities of bringing a dream to life? I think about these kinds of questions when it comes to my own dreams. When dreams seem to fade away, a part of the heart and soul languishes from lack of expression. While I’m no scientist or psychologist, this is what it feels like when a dream is shelved, put on the back burner, or left alone to be forgotten. But is it all really lost? Can it be redeemed? These are things I still ponder especially when work life eclipses creative life or vice versa.
Maybe this internal conflict is different for each one of us. What I know is that all the doing must come to a pause so I can reflect and breathe life back into the dreams. But really the pause allows me to reconnect to purpose, passion, and calling. Maybe the dreams that fade are the ones that don’t even need to belong to me.Maybe the dreams that fade are the ones that don't even need to belong to me. #write31days #dreams #thelemonadestories #storiesofwhen Click To Tweet
It’s a little heavy, ya know, the wading through what does or does not belong to you. I caught glimpses of it when observing others live out their hopes, seeing them put ideas into action, watching them execute plans, and making it all work. I see the success and desire it for myself, but somehow the idea of success becomes warped, and I subvert the growth of my own ideas and dreams. I think it’s one thing to be encouraged by watching others take flight, while it’s a whole other story to allow their flight to become your envy and demise. It can be destruction. It can cause your dreams to fade. It’s all so heavy, but facing the truth of how I am impacted by the envy monster gives me space and grace to pick up what is mine to do and to lay down what I’ve tried to force to be mine.
Laying down what does not belong to me is hard, but I cannot receive or live out the purpose, calling, and passion God designed for my life if I’m hanging on to the remnants of another person’s dreams. So, I am choosing these days to let those false dreams fade away. I’m choosing to scrutinize the horizon of my heart for the light and beauty of my own dreams. They will come to life again. They will awaken, and as they do, I will be ready to do the work of bringing them to fruition. When dreams that don’t belong to me fade away, I can see the promise of hope returning to me.
Surely God is bringing His word to pass. His purposes cannot be thwarted, so I’ll gladly partner with Him. I’ll believe His words and hold faith,
“So shall My word be that goes forth from My mouth;
It shall not return to Me void,
But it shall accomplish what I please,
And it shall prosper in the thing for which I sent it.”
When some dreams fade, I will not lose heart. I know there will be a Light pointing me again and again in the direction in which I should go. What about you? Is there a withering dream you’ve been clinging to that isn’t really yours to own? Let’s be brave together, and live into the fullness of who we’re meant to be.
This post is a part of my 31 Days of Writing challenge. It’s all about taking the sour things of life and reframing them to find the sweetness of faith, hope, and resilience. I hope you’ll join me on this month-long journey. You’ll also find me sharing bits and pieces on my Twitter and IG accounts. I’d love to see you here, and you can also subscribe to my blog/newsletter here.